Be an Apple In the Group Of Oranges.....

Being different is being cool

Do you ever felt to be neglected in group of people or in a group of friends? Probably some of you would say ” Sometimes” or “I would never felt that.”. Neglection is a kind of discrimination or another sign of dis respectfulness.Sometimes I would fell neglected if some of my friends would leave me or she/he doesn’t want to be my friend. First, I say to myself that they maybe busy or whatever,until the day I found out that they choose another person that would exchange me,cooler than me,smarter than me,enjoyable than me. They all change their attitudes towards me, the way they communicate to me,the way they look at me. Until today I would feel that same old feelings that turn me into another person.

Now let’s go to the title : Be an Apple in the Group of Oranges. It’s a common phrase that would we sometimes hear. Some people will change attitude if they adapt their environment.It is associated with neglection for me, Why? Because the way people act towards you is from the surroundings that they roam on.So what do you do to avoid these. A simple way only Be an APPLE in the group of Oranges. you don’t have to be an orange to join them your an apple a unique and outstanding creature.It is the basics of life.

A concrete example of it is this: You belong to a circle of friends that you first met in work,but later on you recognized that they change their attitudes,the way they interact to others. So this decision came in your mind,would you change everything on yourself to be like them or stay as you.

Now the choice would be on the hand of the person who would decide. But never forget that an Apple is always an Apple and an orange Could not be an Apple.

This Blog is Dedicated for MS. Ruby Rey Royo.

Are you Alone?

There is some people that is often be called "shy type" but  their is the word "loneliness" there is a  great difference between them, but they are connected to each other. Being shy means that you are only afraid to make friend, afraid to introduce himself, and  the word  loneliness is the result of that shyness, and sometimes loneliness isn't the result of shyness, sometimes loneliness is the result of you're being left alone by your friends or being abandoned.

Sometimes, I recognize my classmates who are often lonely are sometimes they are also shy. There also some of the that I consider lonely[it's very obvious], why? because even he/she  has many friends, I could sense it, in the look of his/her face.

Now loneliness is the feeling [indeed very strong feeling] of emptiness and solitude which will result to some relationship problems.As I've read some article over the Internet [I like reading some articles about emotions especially loneliness]. It is said that loneliness is the cause of some lack of friendship[that's what I am talking]
and it may be a symptom to a psychological disorder such as chronic disorder.

Loneliness  affects many aspects of life, especially for the person who is always left alone.Loneliness affects emotions making it so unstable sometimes loneliness would cause a sudden burst of emotions like anger.AS there is a problem there is a solution for them.And one way to treat loneliness is a  person who will reach out
for those person who wants to be understood[ I mean understood not getting attention].

Loneliness will never prevail again if  we become more sensitive to other's need and become more friendly.
Loneliness is anything that would eventually get away as long as we care for other people's need. :D

Are you a Real Friend?

They would said "No man is an Island." It means that we cannot live without companions,friends and family.
But how do you think that what you have called " friend" was the one that will betray you? Did you think you would get a rightful justice after you have been betrayed, for me no one will get a justice.

After we learn to walk, to talk and learn the manners,conduct we are ready to face the world, the world of adventure as a child in the society. Commonly children would meet their friends at school or at the neighborhoods[every country has different place where to meet friends like for Philippines children would commonly find friends at the schools].After so many years you are studying and experiencing life you have found so many so called "friends" these friends of you would either a caring one, a posy, a girly, a rocker, a sensitive type and so many as they differ with their  attitude.

Then you are so great in all things[not all of things,somethings that you're friends cannot do.].Some people would be obviously jealous of you, it might be because you are an outstanding student,or always praised by your proctors or whatever you may call it. Then one day you heard in the campus all gossips about you, of course your first reaction to it is your frustrated,shock and you may even ask "What is this real, hey somebody can you tell that  I am only dreaming" and the next thing that will conclude in your mind is "who did this kind of thing to me? What I have done wrong?".

That thing has happened to me and that was the first problem that I encountered during this Junior life at my school. I don't know what spirit has gotten into them or what spoiled food they have eaten. As far as I know it's all because that I have a new found friend [she is a teacher]. After that incident I started to investigate with the help of my true friends, I have found out who make those gossips about me that I am only using those teachers for a good grades which I have been working off. As I've found out that my so called "friends" make it then it's time to their confession, but until these time I never confronted them [they said I would make noise about it and many things negative as my friend told me which has a pretty sense to me].

Now how will you call those person who is making gossip about you fake stories that will led you to rejection, neglection, and finally discrimination[which these will led you to total insanity..]. Sometimes there are lessons that are not taught by teachers and as well by our parents, these things would be taught by ourselves only us would teach ourselves to do when a situation like that happen but always remember that everything has it's own consequences, if you chose to get revenge,then face whatever consequence will you  face, if you stay to be quiet then also face it.

Remember "Your best enemy would be your best friend and YOU."

Be Free,Be You..Ikaw ba talaga yan?

Mayroong puntong nadating sa mga buhay natin na kung minsan hindi na natin kilala ang ating mga sarili. Bilang ako,bilang ikaw,o bilang tayo kilala ba natin kung sino ba talaga tayo? Sa karami-raming tao sa daigdig na ito marami ang hindi nakakakilala ng kanilang mga sarili. Ako sa katunayan mayroong mga  pagkakataon na napagsasabihan ako na "sana bumalik na ang dating James[James ang pangalan ko],sana bumalik ka na sa dati kasi parang di na ikaw yan". Yan ang kadalasan kong naririnig sa mga pagkakataong may nagagawa akong mali.
Narating din na minsn tinatanong ko ang aking sarili kung ano ang nangyayari sa akin o bakit ako nagkakaganito, pero dahil  sa sarili ko lang ang aking kausap wala naman din itong maibigay na sagot.


Pero nakakatuwang isipin na kahit hindi natin kilala yung ating sarili nasasabi natin sa ibang tao na kilalang-kilala natin sila .Bakit kaya ganun? Siguro dahil sa kasama natin sila, malapit na malapit kayo sa isa't isa at sila ba yung taong nakakaintindi sa atin at alam niya ang kahinaan at kalakasan natin.

Ito ang sa tingin ko kung bakit hindi natin kilala yung mga sarili natin[pwede naman yatang umopinion ako di ba?]
Unang una, dahil gusto na natin kalimutan ang dating tayo [which is a very hard thing to do yung kalimutan ang dating tayo..]
Pangalawa, dahil gusto natin maging accepted tayo ng ibang tao, kaya minsan nagbabago tayo ng personality and attitudes[the idea was from my friend, Dawn]
Pangatlo, pinapangarap natin na ibang tao tayo kahit hindi naman o kaya naman sinusunod natin ang gusto ng ibang tao.

Ang pangatlong opinion ko ay siyang tumutukoy talaga sa pamagat. Hindi naman natin pwedeng ikaila na mas madalas natin sinusunod ang gusto ng ibang tao[nakakarelate?], halimabawa nito ay ang gusto nating kuning kurso pero ayaw ito ng magulang natin sa dahilang mas gusto nila yung kursong  patok gaya ng nursing, eto ikaw namimili ka sa dalawa kung ano ang kukunin mo yun bang gusto mo o yung kagustuhan ng mga magulang mo. Eto ang twist jan, ang ibang magulang ginagawa yan upang tignan ang kanilang mga anak kung sigurado sila kukuning mong kurso.Ngayon sa tingin mo nagpapakatotoo ba tayo, malaya ba tayo sa mga kagustuhan?

Ang sagot ay nasa inyo....